What is a Recreational Diaperist?
The simple definition is that a Recreational
Diaperist is a person who enjoys wearing diapers and similar items
for the 'feelings' that they derive from it. Those 'feelings' tend
to vary from individual to individual. Usually, there is no medical necessity
for the person to wear diapers, although in some cases, people who have
problems controlling their bladder or bowels will also be a Recreational
Recreational Diaperism is an emerging fetish that
more and more people are discovering, both within themselves, and in others.
Why do people do it? At the moment, I have
found 3 distinct 'age' categories of recreational diaperists:
Infantilism: These are usually people who
feel around 1, or, 2, or 3 years old when they are in a diaper. For these
people the diaper is more of a symbol, or item of support, to reinforce
their feelings of being a baby. The most popular reasons that I've heard
for this is that when they were a baby, this was a time of helplessness,
a time of no worries, a time when someone else was pretty much in total
control of their lives.
These people are usually known as a 'Teenbaby'
(TB) or an 'Adult Baby' (AB)
Little Boy/Girl: These are usually people
who feel significantly younger than their real age, but they are not interested
in being a baby. Usually the preferred age for this is in the area
of 10 to 14 years old. Again, this was a time in their lives when
someone else was handling most of the worries, and most of the control.
The diaper becomes support for the action of giving up some personal
Diaper Lover: These are usually people that
feel their own age when they are in a diaper.
These people are usually known as a 'Diaper Lover'
Within these categories we have found numerous reasons for wanting to have a
Is This Legal?
Security: In my personal findings from talking to thousands of Recreational
Diaperists, this is a real 'biggy', and perhaps the main reason for wanting
to have a diaper on.
If the person feels that they have a bladder control issue, the diaper
gives them the confidence and the assurance that if they do leak that the
diaper is going to catch it and they won't be embarassed.
The comfort and warmth of the diaper wrapped around them gives them a feeling
of security. A feeling that someone is hugging them, holding them tightly,
giving them assurance.
The diaper becomes a 'friend'. Someone that is always holding them, comforting
them. This friend doesn't bawl them out when they screw up. This friend
is always supportive of them; is always there for them. And, ultimately
this friend gives up it's life for their pleasure!
Convenience: This is also a biggy, especially amongst DL's. This
gives the convenience of not having to rush around to find some place to
pee when the urge hits. Especially when the available bathrooms are unspeakably
dirty, or filled with people, or the person is in the middle of an important
project, movie, or other activity that they don't want to break away from,
or can't. With a highly absorbent diaper they can go all day without having
to change the diaper. And, when it does need to be changed, it's done in
a place and at a time that is convenient for them.
Relaxation: The most vivid example of this that stands out
in my mind is the personal experience that was related to me by a recreational
diaperist. He was a student in college, majoring in a high pressure course.
After a day of classes and intense pressure, he would come home, get into
a diaper and a sleeper and just totally relax as a baby and put everything
else aside. He slept with a Teddy Bear, or other plushie, and sucked his
thumb or pacifier.
- Control: For some people it is a control issue. Wearing a diaper
is a way of giving up some control in their personal life without letting
someone else be in control of them, or as a substitute for someone else
- Adolescence: I have found that an astonishing number of
teens that are in the throes of adolescence are turning to diapers as a
support mechanism for making their way through puberty.
For many, they are drawn to diapers when they wake up in a wet bed and
panic; or find that they have suddenly wet their pants without
One of the 'features' of puberty for quite a few is a sporadic loss of
bladder control. This, of course, produces an internal panic on the
part of the teen. A panic that s/he is too embarassed to discuss with
anyone and they resort to the covert use of diapers in order to control it. This then
leads to continued usage of diapers for the security, as well as many
of the other common reasons.
NOTE: 99% of the teens that are Recreational Diaperists that I
have worked with are NOT into the myriad of other things that teens get
wrapped up in. They have no use for drugs, they have no desire for
alcohol. They are law abiding citizens, they are not robbing banks or
convenience stores, nor are they raping people, or even engaging in
A few of them that I have met smoke tobacco, a few indulge in alcohol,
a few smoke pot from time-to-time. Those numbers are miniscule.
As far as I am concerned, if a teen can make it from 12 to 22 and the
'worse' thing that they engage in is to wear diapers, I believe that
they are going to turn out to be pretty damned good!
Sexual: We can't leave this topic without discussing the sexual
aspects of diapers. After all the diaper covers the most
erogenous part of the human body! Many males find themselves with a
constant erection when they are diapered. (In my experience, very
few females are Recreational Diaperists. I think that it's because of
the difference in relative sizes of the erogenous areas between males
and females.) A male Recreational Diaperist with an erection is not
an indication that he is eager for sexual activities. It only means
that he has been physically stimulated. A significant number of
Recreational Diaperists have absolutely no desire for sexual activities
with another person. For them, their sole interest in sexual activity is
"All that is not prohibited is permitted!" I know
of no laws anywhere in the world that prohibit people, of any age, from
Is This Dangerous? Some people have expressed concern to me
that urine that is in the diaper can be absorbed back into the body and
can cause a wearer to become infected with 'something'.
You have got to already be infected with something before you can
spread it. You can't spread what you don't have. And, urine from a
healthy person is very sterile.
"I just found diapers in my son's (or daughter's) room. What should
- Step One: Don't panic!
- Step Two: Evaluate your relationship with your child. In a
perfect world you can bring the subject up with your child, discuss it
fully, and everybody is comfortable with the situation. But, "Mary
Poppins", "The Brady Bunch" and "Father Knows Best" are ancient
history. In some way you need to let your child know that you know. You
need to let them know that you still love them and that you are not
condemning them for their use of diapers. This is a teens biggest fear!
- Step Three: DO love your child. Show him/her that you love
him/her. Even if you deplore their use of diapers, try to accept their
desire. After all, they could be out robbing banks, using drugs,
raping, and other deplorable things. Personally, I consider diapers to
be a far better alternative to what many teens are getting involved
- Step Four: Do try to get involved in your child's life.
Perhaps there is a legitimate medical problem and they have no control
over their wetting, particularly at night. A doctor can help you both
to deal with it.
Keep an open mind and try to understand his/her feelings about diapers.
- One option is for you to help them to get the diapers - either
on-line from us, or by helping them to obtain them from local stores.
- Let them feel that they don't have to slink around and hide from
you the facts about their diapers.
- Perhaps you don't feel that it is acceptable for you to see them in
a diaper. That's all right to express and enforce. At least they no
longer have the onerous burden of trying to keep it from you.
- Don't try to forbid them from doing it. They will only find ways
around you. Instead, work with them to understand their reasons and
thier rationale. If possible, find alternate solutions that are
acceptable to both of you - if you can't deal with them wearing a
- Step Five: Love your child. No matter what, that is your
child! Love him/her. Try to understand!
- (But, what were you doing that caused you to find this out? Will
they feel that you were spying on them? That you were violating their privacy?
When you discuss their diapers with them, you will need to justify (in
their eyes) what you were doing when you found out.)
Last edit: Nov 13, 2011